4 Things To Remember While Falling In and Out of Love In Your 20’s

Written by Tyra Thompson

Settle down or be wild and free? The endless debate lives on! Should we settle down and find love in our twenties or should we wait until we have life all figured out and actually “find ourselves?” Here’s our advice:

1. Be Selfish.

These are your selfish years. If you spend all of your time focusing on someone else, you’ll rob yourself of the opportunity to do things that are entirely for you. Whether or not you’re in a relationship, dating or single, get out there, do everything you can, give yourself this chance to figure things out and establish who you are as an individual. Now is the time in your life to make decisions whether they are right or wrong — that suit you.

2. You Are Going To Screw Up.

It’s ok to date every type of person, fall in and out of love, break up, make up, have a one-night stand — all of it. Things won’t always work out, but that’s the point. Embrace the uncertainty, as well as your mistakes. This is all a learning process, so welcome the experience.

3. It’s OK to be Single.

Own your independence — take on every opportunity that is important to you without having to consider someone else. This doesn’t mean you aren’t cut out for a relationship or are “un-datable” — it means you are capable of standing on your own two feet and loving yourself without needing someone else.

4. It’s OK to veer off track.

Don’t panic about not being in the place you expected to be romantically at any point in your twenties. You are only in the first quarter of life; wherever you are at right now, embrace it. You will end up in the right place at the right time. Don’t force the process — just enjoy it. Wherever you find yourself right now, don’t worry about love. If you found it, appreciate the ride. It’s great. If not, don’t sweat it. Take this time to revel in all life has to offer.

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